Today I am desperate…

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; APART FROM ME, YOU CAN DO NOTHING." John 15:5

Time August 19, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — erinmelby @ 10:02 am

It’s not that I don’t have plenty of time.  My world just opened wide up when my kids recently started back to school.  This year, unlike any year yet, I am at home with myself and my time!  The question is how will I use it?

Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.  So then, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.   Ephesians 5:15-17

When we wake each morning, we must choose how to live out the day ahead of us.  I love that just before this passage I quoted above, in verse 14 it says,  “Awake, sleeper, And arise…  And Christ will shine on you.”  Let me make a disclaimer here that indeed in verse 14, the reference is to “the dead”…those not alive in Christ.  But as a Christ follower, I look at this as it precedes verses 15-17 and I am encouraged. That just simply by waking up, I can receive the gift of Christ shining on me.  Don’t you wish that every day, getting out of bed was actually that joyful?  It can be!

Further, what will I do with the time that God has granted me for this day?  Over the summer, I observed my kids and thought to myself, “Idle time…”  Is that not what summer time is about for kids?  But consider the effects of idle time.  I found myself saying to them, ” The TV is going off, put your DS away…this idle time is turning your brain to mush!”  I’m becoming my mother after all!!!  As I get older and value my time more, I become more and more aware of how destructive idle time can be.  In 1 Timothy, the widow is warned about idle time, but I think it is applicable to us all… especially women;

“At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house ; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention.” (1 Tiimothy 5:13)

Today, I am challenged to organize my time so that I am the most effective that I can be.  For me that means making lists, having a plan and being purposeful!  What does it mean for you?  I challenge you to consider what happens when your time is idle and not well thought out.  And then consider how much more effective you can be with your time when it is first committed to God for his glory and purpose.  There’s nothing idle about that!

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The Next Thing August 3, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — erinmelby @ 12:46 pm

The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.  Ecclesiastes 7:8

 

Some people resist change.  I’m married to a person like that.  My son, takes after his dad and resists change.  I am not that way.   I often long for change.  I confess that I get bored easily and when “the next thing” nears, I become utterly impatient to the point of almost being debilitated.  The two things don’t mix well; desiring change often and the anxiety that I get when the change draws near!

For me, I get bored with the thing that I had once anticipated intensely.  For example, as the end of the school year neared, I became intensely anxious about what the summer would hold.  I worried about how our new neighborhood would accept me and how our lack of routine would effect our family.  I’m telling you, I lost sleep over anticipating the summer.  Now, the summer is less than one week from concluding and I find myself experiencing the same anticipation as I had just a couple of months ago.  But looking back, I can see that the Summer days that I had anticipated so much were fun-filled and did not deserve the anxious energy that I had invested in them before hand!

Now, I realize that from that description, it sounds more like I resist change than I look forward to it.  And perhaps there is room in there for a little resistance, but by in large, I look forward to it.  The scripture reference from Ecclesiastes resonates so deeply for me.  It’s the “end of the matter” that I actually long for.

When I  take the time to pull this scripture apart a little, I am encouraged by it;  “The end of a matter is better than its beginning…”  In other words, “The event of our trials and difficulties is often better than at first we thought.”(Henry’s Commentary)  Even if the event we anticipate isn’t a trial or difficulty, it’s the getting to it that I wish would hurry up.  For example, now that summer is coming to a close, I am filled with anticipation over school starting.  The beginning of school is neither a trial nor difficulty, quite the contrary in fact.  This year, my youngest begins Kindergarten and I, being a stay at home mom, eagerly anticipate a little me time.  But I still find myself longing for it’s beginning…simply to get the end, which is that me time that I so desire.

“…and patience is better than pride.” Matthew Henry’s commentary describes this as “calmness of spirit”.  Need I say more?

To be sure, it’s the calmness of spirit that I long for each day, but especially as I choose how to invest my energy anticipating the next thing.

 

 

 

To Know and Be Known August 1, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — erinmelby @ 11:05 pm

How I Overcame My Fear and Started a Blog (again)

The address to a friend’s blog appeared in my e-mail inbox on a regular day in 2005.  She had posted pictures of her beautiful family and was recording the special events that occurred in their lives.  “How cool!” I thought. “But I’ll keep jotting stuff down in my well organized, spiral bound calendars that sit nicely on each of my baby’s dressers.”  I wasn’t exactly sure if the world needed to see my life revealed on the World Wide Web.  I was clearly very naïve about the nature of the blogosphere.  The more I kept up on my friend’s life via her blog, the more intrigued I became.  I would typically take a spin by her blog as I would sit down to write in my computer journal that consisted of multiple Word documents.  The more I wrote in my journal, the more I discovered that I might be able to encourage someone with my words.

By 2005, the world of blogging was far from new.  But in my little circle of friends, blogging was just catching on.  And even at that, there were only a few testing the waters of blogging.  2006 was the year I took my first dip into the blogosphere.  The name of my first blog was aptly named “Three under 3”.  At that time I had 3 children all under 3 years old.  The content of my blog was not hard to come by as each and every day of my life was filled with a new adventure to be sure.  I blogged regularly for nearly 2 years and had some followers, which is a huge boost to any writers ego!  But I confess that life happened.  I didn’t stop writing, but it stopped being public.

After some major life events and changes, God began to stir deeply in the place of my heart that is passionate about writing.  I no longer had an active blog, but I was filling pages upon pages of journaling and inspiration that God laid on my heart.  At the time, I was blessed to be part of a sweet community of women who urged me to listen to God’s leading.  I dug my heels in and resisted the idea of becoming a blogger again because between 2006 and 2011, it seemed that every person that breathed had also become present in the blogosphere.  The non conformist in me said, “No!  Find another writing outlet!”  I did not want to be like everyone else.

However, the fact is that the invention of the “blog” has created a place for people to be in a community, so to speak.  I’m clearly not the only one who discovered that.  In my estimation, blogging has gained popularity for 2 main reasons; it’s a place for people to be known, whether it’s to inform or inspire and it’s also a place for people to know, to be informed and inspired.  These are the reasons that I finally broke through my fear and resistance to be like everyone else, and began actively blogging again.  The writer in me is happy to be putting myself out there again in hopes that my passion will inspire those who read and follow my blog.

You can now find me jotting things down at: www.desperatemomandwife.wordpress.com

Many of my days are spent writing what's on my heart and getting places fast!

 

 

 

 
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